After our birth, the next decisive moment is the movement towards the mother, now as one facing us, who takes us to her breast and feeds us. With her milk we take life outside of her.

What makes us successful here and prepares us for later success in our lives and in our profession? To take her as the source of our life, with everything that flows from her to us. With her we take our life. This taking is active. We have to suck to make her milk flow. We must call for her to come. We must rejoice in what she gives us. She makes us rich. 


Later in life, it becomes clear: whoever succeeds in taking their mother completely in this way will be successful and happy. For just as someone relates to their mother, they also relate to their life and their profession. As far as they reject their mother, they also reject life, their work and their profession.
Just as a person rejoices in their mother, so they rejoice in life and in their work. Just as the mother gives and gives them more and more, if they take from her with love, so their life and their work gives them success to the same extent. 


The one who has resentments against their mother also has them against life and against happiness. As their mother withdraws from them as a result of their reservations and their rejection, so life and their success withdraw from them.

The movement towards the mother

For many people, taking the mother is prevented by an early experience. They experienced an early separation from their mother. For example, when they were given away for a period of time, or when the mother was ill and had to leave for recovery, or when we were ill and she was not allowed to visit us. This experience resulted in a deep change in our later behavior. The pain of separation and the helplessness without her, the despair of not being able to go to her where we would have needed her so much, leads to an inner decision.

For example, "I'm giving up on her." "I'm staying by myself." "I'll keep my distance." "I turn my back on her."

The interrupted movement and its consequences


The early interrupted movement towards the mother has far-reaching consequences for later life and for our success.

How does this manifest itself in detail? When such children later want to approach someone, for example a partner, their body reminds them of the trauma of early separation. Then they stop moving towards the partner. Instead of approaching the partner, they wait for him or her to approach them. When the partner really gets close, they often find it hard to bear their closeness. They reject the partner in one way or another instead of welcoming and accepting him or her happily. They suffer from this and yet can only open up to the partner hesitantly, if so, often for a short time. They have a similar experience with their own child. They sometimes find it difficult to bear its closeness. 

Behind almost every trauma is a situation in which a movement that would have been necessary was not possible, so that we remained immobile in it as if rooted or paralyzed.

How is such a trauma solved? It is solved in our feelings and in our memory if we go back to this situation in spite of all fear and inwardly recover the movement that was prevented or interrupted at that time. 

What does this mean for an early interrupted movement towards the mother? We go back to the situation of that time, become the child of that time again, look at our mother of that time and, despite the emerging pain and the disappointment and anger of that time, take a small step towards her - with love. We pause, look into her eyes and wait until we feel within us the strength and courage for the next small step. We pause again until we succeed in the next small step and the next small steps, until we finally fall into the arms of our mother, embraced and held by her, finally one with her again and with love for her. 


Later we check, also here at first inwardly, whether we succeed in this movement with a beloved partner. We look into their eyes, and instead of waiting for them to move towards us, we take the first small step towards them. After a while, when we have gathered enough strength, we take a second step. In this way we continue to walk towards them, slowly step by step, until we take them in our arms and they take us, until we hold them and let them hold us, happy and for a long time. 

The movement towards success

An early interrupted movement towards the mother later proves to be a decisive obstacle for success in our work, in our profession and in our company. Here too, it is important that we move towards success instead of waiting for it to come to us. For example, when we wait for the salary without first delivering the corresponding performance, when we push others forward instead of taking action ourselves and retreating rather than approaching someone and a task with joy.

Every success has the face of the mother.
 Therefore, here too, we first approach our success inwardly and go towards other people, ready to do something for them, ready to serve them, instead of hesitating and standing still and waiting for them to move. Thus, we walk towards them, we walk towards our success, step by step, and at every step we feel our mother lovingly behind us. Connected to her, we are prepared for our success and arrive at it as we arrived at our mother. First we arrived at our mother and now at our success.